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Loved reading this. AND I have never read a book by Anne Lamott. Where should I start?

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I second Sandy's recs! Bird by Bird and Traveling Mercies are my top faves.

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Thank you!

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I would suggest Bird by Bird and then Traveling Mercies ☺️

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Thank you!

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Found this at 3am. I felt so seen. I smiled a lot too.

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Thanks for reading, Aisha! ❤️

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I used to think of myself as a writer, but then someone whose opinion meant a lot to me gave me some unhelpful criticism that basically made me think I had been annoying people with my inconsistent blog posts and that I should just stop.

I haven’t written anything in almost 5 years. I so badly want to again, even if it’s just journaling for myself. But the I start to think about how I need to “do something” with it for it to matter and that I need a blog and a lead magnet and to get back on social media (which I’ve been off of for 4 years).

I want to start writing again.

Your vulnerability and pursuit of a craft that you genuinely love and enjoy is inspiring and I am so grateful for your work

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Tori this makes me ache for you. (Also makes me mad at that person for destroying your confidence.) have you read Create Anyway? I’d love to send you a copy 🫶🏼 email me your address! Ashlee.gadd@gmail.com

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I have not, but after reading this piece I finally ordered it! I cannot wait to read it and I’m excited to set the goal for myself to become a writer again in 2025

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I laughed so hard at this. I did the EXACT same thing as you back in my early blogging days because surprise, surprise, I learned it from Jenna Kutcher. I've been here on Substack for four years and I have probably fifty more subscribers now than I did four years ago. I have no lead magnets, no social media on which to promote my work, no website even. Just a belief that I happen to like what I'm writing and that the right people will find me if they're meant to. And, if not? Well, I've had a lot of fun writing on Substack all these years and no words are ever wasted.

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AMEN to that, Melissa.

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Well said, Ashlee--it is a dance for sure, to find that balance between writing and 'hey, read my writing!' Right?

FWIW, Anne Lamott was my first writing hero and I remember very clearly when her first book came out--1979, the year my daughter was born. I don't think websites were even invented then, right?

Thank you for the smiles and sharing your story.

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Was that Operating Instructions?

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Ashlee, it was "Hard Laughter" written mostly about and after her dad's brain cancer diagnosis. A close friend of hers was also battling cancer at one time and I ((think)) it's in Small Mercies that she mentions it....There's one line in particular I think of often about having the right life perspective, "Hmmmm... Dying today. What should I do?" which I've probably mis quoted; hopefully you get the gist!

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oh goodness YES. this made me laugh and smile so much. WWALD

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Okay all of this, but also, I love your lead magnet.

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😅 Thank you!

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Relatable x 100 not only for enneagram 3, Jenna Kutcher and the lead magnet pull but because this tension is real and you always find a way to acknowledge that with wisdom.

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Thanks for reading, friend ❤️ Also I don't think I knew you were an Enneagram 3!

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As three as you get 😆

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April Hoss and I used to have sticky notes on our phones with,"What would Emily do?" on it. Probably NOT be checking her phone, is what.

Hey and also, this is a story about not writing, yeah? You and I, we should write a book.

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❤️ I hadn't thought of it that way but you're right!

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I loved this, made me smile.

1. I love your lead magnet.

2. I hope you get to me Anne one day!

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I DID! I got to meet her a few years ago and tell her how much her writing has impacted me. It was amazing!

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I couldn’t love this more. Now I have to search my aging brain for what we called these “back in the day.”

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This absolutely makes my day! Thanks for making us laugh, smile, and nod our heads a thousand times over at every turn of this piece. You’re a great writer, Ashlee!

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Ahhh thank you, Ally! ❤️

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Loved this and I also clicked on that lead magnet - I read every word and felt inspired! The book stack poetry idea is so fun!!!

But yes - I could FEEL it when you were talking about the process of creating it and all the hours - I relate to what that feels like mentally, physically and emotionally!

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oh goodness YES. this made me laugh and smile so much. WWALD

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I need a temporary tattoo with that inscription 😅

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yesssssss

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How did you know I needed this today? I am forever borrowing those two questions. Brilliant.

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I just had a feeling ;)

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I love this so much!

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