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Jan 30, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

I identified with so much of this - especially the guilt of using childfree hours to do something nourishing and soul replenishing, and not work or home tasks. Thanks for your vulnerability and best of luck during this wild time!

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So proud of you! 💛

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Jan 31, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

Wasn’t expecting to get teary eyed reading this in the drive thru line😅 but this really spoke to me. Thank you for continuing to share your writing and life with us even during these busy seasons. You put words to feelings and emotions I don’t even know I have. ❤️

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Adore this. And the picture of you and Pres in the chair is my absolute favorite pic of you two everrrr!

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Jan 31, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

Currently googling “yoga studio near me” 😂

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I love that you are putting so much work into handling this season differently. It is going to pay off for you. Also, I can't wait to read your book. It's going to be lovely.

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Jan 30, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

Am I allowed to have three comments? 😂

1) I love how you describe the process of God growing us in a certain area. It reminds me of a spiral...He teaches us a lesson and then in a new circumstance, He circles back around and shows us how to apply that lesson again. And again. And again. (Just me?? 😬) He is so patient, loving and kind!

2) I’m curious why an all fiction library queue is part of your proactive version! Does fiction normally feel too much like resting? As a fellow reader, I just wondered more about that comment!

3) That pasta recipe...is that a Half Baked Harvest cookbook I see??? 😍 #favorite

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This speaks directly to my soul. Sent it to my husband immediately because this shift is something we have been talking about and moving through for a few months now.

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I really needed to read this. I was sitting there last night with my lists freaking out about all of the work deadlines and ministry commitments and school starting back tomorrow (in Australia we have our big break in summer over the Christmas holidays). Just yes, I am similar. When I am swimming and going to yoga everything is easier to carry. And sitting down to eat lunch. Thanks so much for sharing. Hope your book season goes well 💛

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I love this for you!

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Loved reading this! And also, I’ll be keeping my eye open for that possum story! 😂❤️

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Jan 30, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

Ashlee!! I have tears in my eyes... I am SO proud of you!! 👏🏻

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I loved this. Will be rereading a few times.

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Wisdom!

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Jan 30, 2023Liked by Ashlee Gadd

As a fellow Type 3, I relate to this so much. Learning and working so hard to care for myself IN the work - yes!!

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Ashlee, this essay was a true gift, a reminder that self care is not selfless. I have spent the last several years discovering what restores me, what gives me energy, what I truly enjoy. And now I know what to ask for and the time I need to be proactive about stress rather than purely reactive. My hope is that I am teaching my children that taking care of yourself is a gift that keeps on giving. When I give myself an hour each day for me, I am a better wife, mother and daughter for it. Most of the time, that hour is spent exercising (more for my mental health than physical) and sometimes it is reading the sun. Today, it is a quiet morning at a coffee shop with my favorite drink and catching up on my favorite Substack authors. Self care is not selfish, one of my personal mantras.

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